Todays AI Masterclass 🎒

The Relationship Compatibility Prompt

Good afternoon Wellonytes!

💘Welcome to today’s love-soaked AI Masterclass edition of Well Wired💘

We’re throwing Cupid into the mainframe and decoding the romance matrix with a juicy, science-backed method for finding love—all without the soul-sucking scroll of dating apps.

Think attachment theory and love languages meets ChatGPT. Freudian slips meets algorithmic flips. 🤖💋

Inside: two juicy prompts, six steps to soulmate clarity, and a method that’ll stop you from dating the same walking red flag in different shoes. Whether you're heart-bruised, love-curious, or just done with Tinder photos of weird guys holding fish or Bumble girls with golden onesies—this one’s for you.

Get ready to attract real love—no ghosting, no gimmicks, no glitchy romance.

Let’s plug in and pair up. ❤️⚡

And remember, Well Wired ⚡ always serves you the latest AI-health, productivity and personal growth insights, ideas, news and prompts from around the planet. We’ll do the research so you don’t have to! 🤖❤️‍🧬⚡

Let’s get into it! 🚀

Read time: 7 minutes

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Relationships:

The 6-Step ‘Perfect Mate Method’ to Attract Your Ideal Partner Using AI (Without Dating Apps or Settling) 💘

👉 Stop swiping. Start attracting.

Inspired by:

• Attachment Style Theory by John Bowlby, Mary Ainsworth

• Imago Relationship Therapy by Harville Hendrix

• Love Languages Theory by Gary Chapman

Greetings lovers,

It's the AI Monk here - and today we're diving into something that's probably making you question your sanity more often than you'd like to admit:

Finding genuine love in the algorithmic hellscape of modern dating.

Listen, the stats don't lie:

• 45% of all new relationships now start online [source]

• 78% of dating app users feel frustrated with their experience [source]

You're swiping more but connecting less - trapped in an endless buffet of options where everyone's profile promises "adventure and good vibes" but delivers something closer to awkward small talk and ghosting.

Let's be honest: dating apps have turned your love hunt into something that feels like shopping for shoes online - except the shoes often arrive with completely different qualities than advertised, sometimes don't show up at all, and occasionally send you bizarre messages at 2 AM asking "u up?"

But what if there was a better way for you to attract the right person without feeling like you're submitting job applications to strangers?

A method based on actual psychology rather than whatever mysterious algorithm keeps showing you the same guy with a fish photo or girl in a golden sci-fi outfit!

Despite your repeated left swipes?

“This is where the six step Perfect Mate Method comes into play…”

A science-backed approach to finding love that doesn't involve endlessly scrolling until your thumb develops its own personality disorder.

Think of the twin prompts you’re about to learn as the difference between randomly throwing darts at a wall of potential matches versus having a precision-guided romance missile that's actually programmed with your authentic needs.

I've tested this system on myself (recovering from three situationships that left me emotionally drained) and dozens of coaching clients who were tired of playing relationship roulette with their hearts.

The results?

People are finally finding partners who match their attachment styles rather than just their aesthetics, and reporting fewer "what the actual hell was I thinking?" moments during the dating process.

And me?

I’ve now been in a healthy, loving, dynamic relationship for almost two years and we have a beautiful little boy named Zeus!

I’ll post a pic of us below 😀 😍 

This stuff really works!

Let's d-d-d-d-dive in! 🤿

What you'll learn today:

• The 6-step Perfect Mate Method to find your aligned love match

• Two powerful ChatGPT prompts that transform your dating approach

• How to uncover your true needs and spot relationship red flags

• Why most dating advice fails (and what actually works)

So What is the Perfect Mate Method?

The Perfect Mate Method is a complete 6-step self-awareness system designed to help you attract aligned love through deeper understanding of yourself and your relationship patterns.

Unlike conventional dating advice that focuses on surface-level attraction, this method delves into your psychological makeup, attachment needs and emotional patterns to create a blueprint for authentic connection.

This method combines powerful psychological frameworks like attachment theory, love languages, and the Imago relationship model with cutting-edge AI tools to help you identify compatible partners and avoid repeating painful relationship cycles.

By completing all six steps, you'll transform your dating approach from random chance to conscious choice – helping you find someone who truly meets your emotional needs rather than just triggering temporary chemistry.

Swipe left on chaos.

This is romance with a user manual, not emotional Jenga after three Negronis.

Why your relationships fail before they start

Here's an uncomfortable truth:

You might have no idea what you really need in a partner.

You create shallow "ideal partner" lists focused on height, appearance, job and Apple TV preferences...

...while completely ignoring the deeper psychological patterns that actually determine your relationship success.

The result?

• You constantly attract the wrong people

• You get stuck in the same toxic cycles

• You mistake chemistry for compatibility

• You ignore red flags that are waving like they're directing air traffic

This stops today.

Let's plug you into the Perfect Mate Method.

Think of your dating life as a subscription box service where you keep getting sent the emotional equivalent of expired yogurt and unripe avocados. 🥑 💔 

You didn't explicitly ask for these items, yet somehow they keep showing up on your doorstep month after month, promising nourishment but delivering disappointment.

The Perfect Mate Method is like finally hacking the algorithm and getting the premium box filled with exactly what your emotional taste buds actually crave.

No more "surprise" incompatible partners who make you wonder if the universe is playing some cosmic joke at your expense.

It's time to stop being the person who keeps ordering salad when what you really want is pasta. You deserve someone who matches your attachment blueprint, not just your Instagram aesthetic.

Theory: The 6 Steps of the Perfect Mate Method

Alright, let’s break down each step first—so you understand the why behind the how. Then we’ll bring in your AI twin prompt to help you actually put it into action and uncover that dream-lover faster than faster than a Labrador spots an unattended sandwich. 🐶🥪

STEP 1: Know Thyself (Attachment Deep Dive) 🧠

Goal: Understand your attachment style and how it shapes your patterns in love.

Action Steps:

• Take an attachment quiz to determine if you're anxious, avoidant, secure, or disorganised

• Reflect on how you handle intimacy, fear, space, and conflict

• Identify your attachment wounds and how they show up when dating

These steps will help you replace your blind date roulette wheel with a Michelin-starred matchmaker who serves up soulmates instead of sad memories and childhood wounds.

AI Tool That Can Help: Mindsera

• AI journaling using CBT and psychology frameworks

• Helps you process emotions, identify triggers, and spot recurring behaviour patterns

• Especially powerful after dates, arguments, or romantic disappointments

STEP 2: Map Your Core Needs (Love Language Mining) 💬 

Goal: Understand how you give and receive love so you can communicate your needs clearly.

Action Steps:

• Take the 5 Love Languages quiz

• Rank your top 2 love languages

• Start noticing how others express affection and whether it aligns with your needs

This is the romantic equivalent of switching from Morse code on a potato to WhatsApping your heart in 4K.

AI Tool That Can Help: Hello Love AI

• Personalised love language analysis and insights

• Daily nudges to practice expressing and receiving love in your language

• Perfect for journaling your emotional reactions and romantic wins

STEP 3: Clarify Ideal Partner Qualities (Imago-Inspired) 🌱 

Goal: Get clear on the values, traits, and emotional dynamics you want in a partner.

Action Steps:

• Use the Imago model to define your "relationship vision":

  1. Emotional safety

  2. Shared values

  3. Growth mindset

  4. Secure communication

  5. Reciprocal effort
     

• Reflect on your past patterns.

  • What traits uplifted you?

  • Which drained you?

AI Tool That Can Help: Limbic AI

• Uses neuroscience-backed questions to uncover your emotional wiring

• Helps you generate an "ideal partner profile" based on your cognitive and emotional alignment

• Great pre-dating prep to help you remove the jitters

STEP 4: Spot Red Flags by Style Misalignment 🚩 

Goal: Recognise incompatible dynamics before you get too invested.

Action Steps:

• Learn the common mismatch traps (e.g., anxious + avoidant)

• Ask early questions about closeness, communication, and conflict

• Look for consistency over chemistry

Now you’ll switch from blindfolded speed dating at a circus… to hosting a TED Talk titled “Why Emotional Safety is My Type.”.

You’ll spot those red flags from a mile away!

AI Tool That Can Help: Replika

• Chat with an AI partner to practice setting boundaries, expressing needs, and spotting red flags

• Ideal for those learning to self-soothe or test new communication styles

• Helps train emotional regulation and mindful responses

STEP 5: Create Your "Aligned Partner Profile" 🧾 

Goal: Build a clear blueprint of who you are and what you want—beyond superficial traits.

Action Steps:

• Write out:

  • My attachment style is...

  • My top love languages are...

  • I feel safest when...

  • I'm looking for a partner who...

  • My growth edges are...
    

• Revisit and refine after each new dating experience

Now you’re upgrading from Tinder roulette to Hogwarts Sorting Hat for hearts—with fewer snakes and more secure attachments up your sleeve.

AI Tool That Can Help: Notion AI

• Use a custom dashboard to track your insights, any red flags, dealbreakers and lessons

• Log emotional patterns after each interaction

• Build an evolving "Dating Operating System" based on you

STEP 6: Date Consciously, Not Conveniently 🧘 

Goal: Choose aligned connections from a place of wholeness, not loneliness.

Action Steps:

• Tune into your nervous system: do you feel regulated around them?

• Ask intentional questions about values, growth, conflict, and lifestyle

• Prioritise emotional safety over those mental chemistry highs

This is the dating equivalent of upgrading from a vending machine fling to a farmers’ market romance—organic, earthy and intentional.

AI Tool That Can Help: Kindra AI

• AI-powered dating assistant designed for intentional, growth-minded partnerships

• Matches based on emotional compatibility and long-term alignment

• Ideal for conscious daters fed up with swipe culture

So what now?

Ok, so now that you understand the six steps to dating compatibility and the science-backed tools that can help you in your love quest, let’s plug all that knowledge into AI to help you move onto dating mastery.

Think of these next few prompts like assembling IKEA furniture for your heart—only now you've got instructions that make sense and a robot who never loses the Allen key. 🛠️💞

PROMPT CORNER

Prompt 1: Deep Self-Discovery + Ideal Partner Mapping

This powerful prompt combines the first three steps of the Perfect Mate Method into one totally rad and bootylicious self-discovery tool:

[START OF PROMPT]

I'm on a journey to find a deeply compatible partner, and I want to start with self-awareness.

My attachment style is [insert your style, e.g., anxious-avoidant], and in relationships, I tend to [describe recurring patterns or emotional triggers, e.g., pull away when things get serious].

My top love languages are [e.g., quality time and acts of service], and I feel most loved when [insert specific scenarios, e.g., someone anticipates my needs or shows up consistently without being asked].

Using this information, help me with the following:

Emotional Needs Analysis: Identify the emotional needs I bring into relationships based on my attachment style and love languages.

Ideal Partner Traits: Define the key emotional, behavioural, and psychological qualities my ideal partner would need to possess in order to create a healthy dynamic with me.

Partner Description Blueprint: Create a clear and concise profile of my ideal partner, including how they might show up in communication, conflict, affection, and shared values.

[END OF PROMPT]

Note: I have included links to the different compatibility methods and partner communication styles so you can work out your personal dating blueprint.

Just scroll up ☝️ 

This is How The Magic Unfolds!

Here's how prompt one helps you master the first three steps of the Perfect Mate Method:

The first part of the prompt, ‘Know Thyself (Attachment Deep Dive)’, helps you understand your attachment style - the unconscious blueprint that shapes how you connect with others.

What this reveals:

• How you handle intimacy and closeness

• Your reactions to conflict and disagreement

• Why you may push people away or cling too tightly

• The wounds from childhood that affect your adult relationships

By naming your attachment style and relationship patterns in the prompt, you give ChatGPT the crucial information it needs to help you understand your emotional wiring.

It’s as if you’ve now given ChatGPT the keys to your romantic filing cabinet—minus the cobwebs, ex-texts and emotional receipts from 2012.

The middle section of the prompt, ‘Map Your Core Needs (Love Language Discovery), helps you understand how you naturally give and receive love - and why you might feel unloved even when someone is trying their best.

What this reveals:

• The specific actions that make you feel valued

• Why certain relationships felt empty despite effort

• How you naturally express affection to others

• The mismatch that causes most of your relationship conflicts

By identifying your love languages and the specific scenarios where you feel most loved, you give ChatGPT the details needed to map your emotional needs with precision.

It’s like giving your feelings a postcode so they stop wandering round the wrong houses asking for hugs and to feel heard.

The final part of the first prompt, ‘Clarify Your Ideal Partner Qualities’, moves you beyond superficial traits to identify the values, emotional dynamics and authentic connection you need.

What this reveals:

• The deeper qualities that create lasting compatibility for you

• The difference between chemistry and connection

• Values alignment that prevents major conflicts

• The growth-oriented dynamics that keep your love alive

By asking for a clear profile of how your ideal partner would show up in communication, conflict, affection, and shared values, you create a comprehensive blueprint for attraction based on cognitive and emotional alignment.

Prompt 2: Red Flag Radar + Aligned Dating Plan

This second powerful prompt combines the final three steps of the Perfect Mate Method into one practical dating strategy:

[START OF PROMPT]

I'm either currently dating or preparing to re-enter the dating world, and I want to do so with clarity, boundaries, and emotional awareness.

My attachment style is [insert your style] and my top love languages are [insert top 2]. I want to use this information to avoid old patterns and attract someone truly aligned.

Please help me:

Red Flag Awareness: Identify potential red flags, incompatibilities, or common relationship patterns that may trigger me or reinforce past unhealthy dynamics.

Aligned Partner Profile: Build a detailed profile that captures:

Who I am and what I value
My emotional needs and non-negotiables
My dealbreakers and areas where I require emotional safety

Conscious Dating Framework: Suggest a mindful dating strategy, including:

Key questions to ask early on
Green flags to look for in conversation and behavior

A clear dating intention or mantra to help me stay aligned with my emotional blueprint

[END OF PROMPT]

Here's how the second prompt helps you master the final three steps of the Perfect Mate Method:

The first part of the second prompt, ‘Spot Your Red Flags by Style Misalignment’, helps you recognise incompatible dynamics before you get too emotionally invested.

What this reveals:

• Common mismatch traps (like your anxious + their avoidant pairings)

• Early warning signs of fundamental incompatibility

• The difference between chemistry highs and genuine connection

• Communication patterns that predict relationship success

By asking ChatGPT to identify potential red flags based on your attachment style, you create an early warning system for misalignment.

Much like installing a psychic car alarm for your heart—silent until someone with commitment issues tries to hotwire your feelings.

The middle section of the second prompt, Create Your "Aligned Partner Profile, combines all your insights into a comprehensive blueprint of who you are and what you need in a partner.

What this creates:

• A clear articulation of your attachment needs

• Your top love languages and how you need to receive love

• Your emotional safety requirements unique to you

• Your own growth edges and how a partner can support them

By asking ChatGPT to build a detailed profile that captures who you are, what you value, and your non-negotiables, you create a powerful filter for potential partners.

The final part of the second prompt, Date Consciously, Not Conveniently, is about implementing your new awareness in your actual dating situations.

What this creates:

• Your mindful connection rather than desperate attachment

• Your dating choices based on alignment, not loneliness

• Your ability to recognize genuine compatibility

• Your dating from wholeness rather than emptiness

By asking ChatGPT for key questions, green flags, and a clear dating intention, you create a practical framework for conscious dating decisions.

Now you’ve gone from “let’s see what happens” to “I’ve got a spreadsheet, a compass and emotional boundaries—let’s boogie.”

Putting it all together:

Your Perfect Mate Method in action

Here's a real-world example of how these prompts transformed Sarah C’s dating life:

Sarah, a 34-year-old with an anxious attachment style, used the first prompt and discovered her core need for consistent communication wasn't just "being needy" - it was her valid attachment need for security.

Using the second prompt, she identified that her pattern of falling for emotionally unavailable partners was a red flag she needed to watch for.

She created a conscious dating framework with questions like "How do you prefer to communicate when you're busy?" to screen for partners who could meet her needs.

Within three months, she met someone who responded to her authentic needs with understanding rather than judgment. Six months later, they're building a relationship based on genuine compatibility rather than chemistry alone.

Wrap up

WHAT YOU LEARNED TODAY:

• The 6-step Perfect Mate Method to find your aligned love match

• Two powerful ChatGPT prompts that implement all six steps of the Perfect Mate Method

• How to understand your attachment style and love languages

• How to identify red flags specific to your emotional needs

• How to date consciously from a place of self-awareness

Listen, finding your perfect match isn't about convincing someone to pick you off the shelf like the last jar of premium truffle oil. It's about knowing exactly what flavour of relationship nourishes your soul - and having the courage to leave the rest on the shelf.

These prompts are like relationship X-rays - they expose what's really going on beneath your dating patterns. No more wondering why you keep matching with people who have the emotional availability of a brick wall or the communication skills of a houseplant.

With these tools, you can finally stop the cycle of dating your unresolved childhood issues wearing different outfits.

Speaking of relationships...

I recently used these exact prompts to help a Dj friend who kept dating the same type of emotionally unavailable person. The insights were so spot-on that he printed them out and reviews them before every first date.

He just texted me yesterday that he finally met someone quirky who "gets" his attachment needs without making him feel clingy.

That's the power of these prompts!

“Remember: Your perfect relationship shouldn't feel like constant emotional whiplash. It should feel like coming home to yourself.”

YOUR TURN 🫵

Right, now it’s your move, Romeo.

Or Juliet.

Or emotionally intelligent superhero of love.

Take these ChatGPT prompts, fire them up and start crafting your own romantic blueprint.

Ask the questions.

Spot the green flags.

Sniff out those walking red ones like a relationship truffle pig with purpose.

No more dating like you're stuck in a romcom montage with no plot.

Use what you’ve learned to build conscious, aligned, soul-nourishing connections—starting today.

Because the only thing worse than another mediocre date is realising you never asked for what you truly needed in the first place.

Keep diving in and stay well, stay wired... Ced

Ps. As promised here’s a picture of my little Zeus (covered for privacy) and partner Jade!

P.S. Which dating prompt are you most excited to try?

Let me know and reply to this email.

👊🏽 STAY WELL

See you next issue for another round of AI love-making!

Until then stay wired and stay well, 🌱
Cedric the AI Monk - Your guide in the silicon wilderness.

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